Underachieving and Happy About It

Underachieving since 1993 baybeeeeee (from my dad’s Facebook)

I’ve never really been the type of person to really “get things done”. I really enjoy when I do get to the goal I set for myself, but the goals themselves are not so much “write a book in a year” or “get my college degree before 30”…it’s more like “write, period” or “actually cook dinner tonight”.

Some people really reach for the stars when it comes to their goals. I say good for them! It’s amazing to live in a place where you are able to reach those wild dreams you thought would never happen. Hard work and constant dedication are two things that I never really learned how to value in a traditional sense. I could always visualize the end goal, but could never structure my life to get myself there. I’d like to blame something else for me not pursuing a music or acting career (the two things I used to be Really Good At), but really it’s just me being both afraid to fail and simply not wanting to work that hard to possibly fail at all.

Meanwhile, my sister is absolutely following the path she’s wanted to for her entire life; she loves to draw, so she is currently in the process of making her hobby a career that will bring her everything she wants in life. She’s graduated from art college with an illustration degree, self-published two comic books, and while she still has her day job, she really is getting to do all of the art stuff she’s wanted to do her whole life.

Most people think that I’m envious of her because of this. That couldn’t be further from the truth! I’m so proud of my little sister because she’s living true to herself and doing exactly what she wants to do with her life. It’s hard, but she’s making something that will last for years to come with her art, and I think that’s amazing.

My life has for sure had its ups and downs, but I always try to live my life with no regrets. Everything happens for a reason, and I’m 100% convinced that I’m on the path that was meant for me. If I had gone down any other path, I might not have even wanted to start this blog! Let alone live with my nice friends in a nice house, with my nice husband and nice cats. Everything could have been different, and that is okay to think about sometimes…but I don’t like to dwell on it. I know that I’ve found my Happy Place.

It looks like I don’t really try very hard, but I feel like while I don’t try in the traditional sense, I really do want to do well in life. I work in food service, which isn’t a dream job for most people, but for me it’s absolutely what I love to do. Seeing people come into the restaurant angry or upset from their day makes me want to work as hard as I can to make their meal something that they’ll remember as the highlight of their week. I’m lucky and grateful that I ended up working at a family-owned franchise under a team of fantastic managers that value my time and want me to succeed (both in and out of work). It truly is like a second home, a second family, and I honestly could see myself working there for a long time. I’m honestly confident in saying that I can see myself climbing there, learning how to run a restaurant on my own, and eventually opening up something myself one day.

Of course, that’s very ambitious, and I’m not the most ambitious person in the world, or even in my circle of friends. The saying “slow and steady wins the race” is something that I never thought I would live by, but now I totally do. I have learned to take my time and really make sure that I am doing something I am proud of. I want to be able to put my entire being into something and be as passionate about it as my sister is with her art. I don’t know if I’ll ever find that something, and I don’t even know if that something will be as tangible as having my own restaurant or as simple as starting a family (because yes, being a mom is and forever will be a full time job and a personal goal of mine since I was a lil Mary). However! What does this have to do with underachieving? This all sounds very achievable.

It’s all achievable. We are able to literally do anything we set our minds to as humans. I mean, have you SEEN fire? The printing press? Literal Outer Space? There are so many things that we have already done as a species that blow my mind every day. We’re incredible. But if you get to thinkin about all that too much, it might be discouraging. Yeah, we can see distant galaxies and we can hail a car to take us anywhere, any time, but I can’t even get out of bed half the time without wandering if it’s really worth the energy to do so.

It totally is worth it, though.

I might not be the Next Best Thing in any certain field, but I’m Me. I’m the only server at my job with over twenty regulars, and I can remember almost all of their orders and the stories they tell me about their lives at a moment’s notice. I can walk from one end of Columbus to the other with enough dedication (and liquor, probably). I can’t run a mile or play a first person video game without wanting to vomit, but I can learn how to play anything on the viola or sing it upon hearing it only twice. There’s so much I can’t do, but there’s a hell of a lot I can do. Sometimes it’s good to remember that even though you might not think you’ve made an impact or done something worthwhile, you’ve done something, anything, that matters. Even if it only matters to you! I know no one cares that I know a shit ton of Harry Potter facts, for example, but I think it’s pretty neat.

So, being mediocre is okay. You don’t have to be the best all the time. When it comes time to sit down and actually get things done, it’s easy to forget that it’s okay to mess up a few times before getting it right. Everyone is obsessed with being the best and we’ve forgotten how to be just okay.

If you mess up in life, it’s not the end of the world! You just have to get up and try again. It took me a few times to be happy with my life, but I can genuinely say I am proud of what I’ve accomplished so far. No matter how tiny your list of accomplishments is, it’s still a list of accomplishments! I might not have a college degree under my belt, or a piece of art or anything to show for what I’m up to in life, but I have a great job, and a great family. I think that alone is worth everything.

I’m pretty sure I’ve used this picture a thousand times but this is my husband and I Love Him. Basically the perfect man to start a family with, nbd

Thanks for reading another post! I wanted to write something for the people who don’t really have a life plan (such as myself) to tell them that it’s totally okay to not be crazy ambitious in life. I mean, I’m making it alright…if I can do it, anyone can lol. Hopefully it was fun to read! If you have any suggestions on what I should write next, head on over to Twitter to tell me all about it. I’m thinkin next week might be a music post, but we’ll see…y’all know I just write whatever comes to mind. I’ll see you here next week!

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I write stories, as well as music, movie, product reviews and monthly wrap-up journals. Basically, if you can think it, I can write about it.

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Mary B. Golubich

Mary B. Golubich

I write stories, as well as music, movie, product reviews and monthly wrap-up journals. Basically, if you can think it, I can write about it.

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